Finding Your # Happily 4Ever After

By Star Young

We recently met with Dr. Richie Davidson, a renowned neuroscientist and one of the world’s leading experts on the impact of contemplative practices. He is best known for his groundbreaking work in studying emotion and the brain. As founder of the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the Waisman Center at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, he has established a cutting edge lab that studies real time effects on our brain and how our thoughts and actions impact our happiness and well being. I call it the “think it, say it, do it” affect.

Dr. Davidson confirms that to be happy we must start by establishing the key factors affecting a person's happiness. Family and personal life are tops in every study, and work and community life rank high. Health and freedom are also crucial.  While money matters, financial success is most associated in striving for extravagant life.

Dr. Davidson and I spoke about the differences in men and women.  We know that men and women think differently, perceive communication differently. Now science has proven our brains are wired differently. We also know that men and women’s lives are typically very different in their scope of responsibilities and how society perceives them.   

Women are still the primary caregivers in a family. Increasingly, they are primary breadwinners, too. According to a Pew Research Center analysis, four in ten American households with children under age 18 now include a mother who is either the sole or primary earner for her family. Census and polling data show that this number has quadrupled since 1960. 

The shift reflects evolving family dynamics. For one, it has become more acceptable and expected for married women to join the workforce. It is also more common for single women to raise children on their own. Most of the mothers who are chief breadwinners for their families — nearly two-thirds — are single parents. 

Our roles, our responsibilities and our possibilities are forever changing.  There are less and less boundaries between family, personal life and work. Health is often a last item on the to do list.  For women to find happiness based on the key factors makes for a lot to balance and organize in this 24/7 world.

How do we start?

Find your personal passion and purpose by:

* Exploring the divine gifts that are uniquely yours,

* Defining your core values and

* Using your mind and the brain that is wired just for you.

You may say, “Oh great, just add a few more items to my daunting to do list!”   I challenge you to think of it like planning an exciting journey into a burgeoning future that is yours to create.  If you can think it and say it's yours, you can do it.  Science has proven you can have a future that is your own #Happily 4ever After.

Star Young is an entrepreneur and Fortune 500 award winning executive.  Ms.Young is a certified excellence coach and a trained facilitator of Edward Deming Continuous Improvement.  In addition, she has been a talent for CBS syndicated programming, as well as a co- founder of the Beauty Spot and author of Smart Girlfriends Guide series.