The dissolution of a marriage is hard. If you have to face divorce, you need to know how to navigate your emotions, the legal system and your options. We want you to now know what we wish we knew.
Whether you are contemplating or actually in the process of divorce, you’re in a very difficult and painful situation. Divorce has long been considered one of the top two most stressful life events, comparable with death of a loved one. Both life experiences have their own grieving process. I certainly know first hand as I endured an arduous divorce and two deaths in my immediate family. I also know first hand that you can survive and you can thrive!
Undeniably, you have many questions and genuine concerns. We have gathered a team of experts that will help navigate you through the rough and unchartered waters that typically accompany separation and divorce. Our goal is to help you through the divorce process into recovery and healing and on to your own happily ever after.
Each marriage has its own set of circumstances, all which can affect your case. Our goal is to provide helpful information. Education is the key to a successful outcome.
These are some projected statistics in New Jersey. There are:
- 1,000,000 -Superior Court Cases Filed Annually
- 400,000 -Family Court Cases Filed Annually
- 65,000 -Matrimonial FM Cases Filed Annually
- 32,000 -Pre-Judgment FM Cases Filed Annually
- 33,000 -Post-Judgment FM Cases Filed Annually Statewide
- 125 -Superior Court Judges Statewide Handling all 400,000
What You Should Know About Divorce
- The average cost of divorce is $50,000. Ultimately, the cost depends on how long the divorce takes.
- The average divorce takes two years to execute.
- You must possess all your financial records- from banking, investments, tax returns, credit cards, housing expenses and other debts.
- Mediation is considered the least expensive process and is best done as soon as you are sure. The more time a divorce takes, the greater the chance is for hostility and emotions to take over logic and prolong the process. Mediation is not necessarily about what is fair. Mediation is what can be negotiated. Currently most divorces are settled in mediation.
- Collaborative Divorce is a growing option for couples that prefer a cooperative approach without litigation. You should use a certified collaborative attorney. If couples can work together it offers a respectful, dignified approach that preserves family.
- Children must be protected in the divorce. Do not use the children as pawns or your therapists. The cost to them is too high.
- While a good attorney is necessary, some unduly inflate the costs of divorce- they make more money the longer it takes. They are not your therapists and their rates are higher.
- A difficult divorce requires a good therapist, especially if children are involved. A good therapist will help you, your children and the cost of your divorce. After a therapist, a financial advisor is a smart investment.
- If you cheated or start to date in the process of divorce, DO NOT flaunt it to make your partner jealous or for revenge.
- If you have young children, your relationship never ends. Communication is best through emails. Keep them short and to the point. Remember anything you write can be used against you.
Fact to know about YOU
Life goes on and you will be happy again. Happiness is a choice. Make the right choices, keep the faith, take care of your mental and physical health and you will find your # happily 4ever after.